When your feeling lost

Feeling lost can happen in a room fill of people or home filled with family. This feeling of confusion and inner loneliness can meet us in our 20's when adulthood is emerging and the weight of what's to come feels incredibly daunting. It can aslo meet us at midlife. When we look back and have to swallow the bitter truth that somehow, things did not go as planned.

These feelings may invite us to numb, distract, struggle. Shopping, food, sex, love, work may all be temporary roadmaps but eventually the lost feeling returns.

This is where your true story begins. When you can feel the uncomfortable feeling and say to yourself, "I see your pain". If we can to continue to be brave, we may begin a journey that will introduce us to our hidden parts. The ones we have disowned. The ones we try so desperately to hide from others. The needy child who calls out desperately for love, the sex driven seducer that carries shame for primal wants, the angry teenager who knows how to build walls and keep you not so safely inside.

How do we begin this process fo putting the pieces back together? How to find a sense of wholeness that isn's tainted by achievements and external validaiton?

We must go inward. This begins with slowing down, maybe even getting still. If its too difficult to do this, turn to the places that embody stillness. Tis may include spending time with animals who instinctively know when its time to rest. Walking amongst trees, where its quiet. Allowing the trees to show you the path lain out before you that you did not need to create. You just need to be willing to go through.

Reaching out for help on this journey is going to be necessary. Find a community of people that are invested in your growth. This may include a yoga community, a support group, a book club that you start or local hiking group. This is a useful step but its not the whole picture.

Spending quiet time alone will have its benefits. Reading, journaling, walking in nature. Having conversations with yourself that don't include problem solving and do include deep listening.

This process will happen in its own time that is for sure but maybe we can start to notice the places we are holding up barriers through denial and resistance. Radical honesty with ourselves when we are ready will offer the most opportunity for positive change.

Remember you don't need to do this alone. Find your people and lean on them. Surrendering to help is scary but holds the potential for healing and beauty.